We all have reason once in a while to ask, "What if things had happened differently? What if I had done something other than what I did? Would things have worked out better?"
Then I ask myself, "Better for who...better for me or better for them?" That's a hard question to answer. Actually, I usually find it impossible.
But as "they" say, hindsight is 20/20. I don't find it so in certain situations. I still puzzle at what might have been if that wasn't said...or this wasn't done.
I do know for certain I am my own worst critic. I beat myself up when things don't go the way I wish they had, thinking, "I should not have done that or I should have done it a different way."
When I can finally stop my mind from whirling around all the "what ifs" and let it focus on the present and all the blessings I have to be grateful for, the past becomes less bothersome. It's keeping it there I have problems with.